Wednesday, April 7, 2010

End to Winter Hockey Night

This is a time for the end and the beginning...
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While the winter hockey season has ended, the official start to Spring has begun.
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Among other things we are in the midst of Ms. Homemaker's preparations to become self sufficient and independent...
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Hubs' trip is just around the corner (literally hours at this point). We've been attached at the hip. When someone asks if we can do dinner, go out for a drink, etc, so that they may bid him farewell, I can't help but be selfish and think to myself 'NO! I want him all to myself.' The truth is, I've been letting him call the shots...we do what he wants or needs, when he wants or needs.
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Each moment I have with him I try to further burn into my mind the images and memories of us being...well us. This week when the sox began the season, I was right there beside him...him, me, us and only us! I want to further ingrain in my head and heart what it feels like to sit here alone with him...even now as he plays xbox to relax and release some anxiety, I write my blog. It's comfortable and comforting.
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I am feeling guilty of being selfish with what time we have, but I really am trying to share him. We've been touring the state bidding goodbye to family and friends, checking things off the to-do list as we go. We've been shopping to purchase a stock supply of daily necessities, worrying whether we'll get it all to fit in the minimal luggage he's allowed.
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The other night I couldn't sleep. We went to bed together and as his breath grew deep and he entered well into his REM cycle, I laid there wide awake. I watched him sleep. This is something I almost never do, since I am usually the first one to pass out and call it a day. There is just something about the timing of things.
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Each moment I have alone in the house I try to acknowledge the silence and say to myself, 'this is what it is going to be like.' I try to prepare myself and imagine what it will be like with no used coffee spoon sitting just on the edge of the sink. No pile of comfy sweats sitting by the couch, with which Hubs will change into upon returning from work. I think of Pups, who will not have his fellow male companion for so long and how I will try to be more for him so that he may not feel the emptiness of the house...
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I am worried that things will be different. I mean after so much time apart, they almost have to be right? We never stop growing as individuals. Even though we will be apart, we will be changing as a couple. Is this the last time it will feel exactly this way?!?!
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Is this the end of how we are...just the way we are now? Will things change so much that we're forced to face a new chapter of life??
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I don't know if I am ready for things to change...or at least not yet. Fighting against things out of my control, I try to enjoy what is now and see that darned glass half full. While I am comfortable and comforted by the way we are and who we are now, I can't help but ask myslef what will happen? How will this go??
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As we count down the hours and prepare, everything is a last. This is the last Wednesday we have, yesterday was the last Tuesday....you get what I mean?!?!
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Since cooking and food are just one way I express myself, I've been bugging Hubs with 'what is it you really want to eat before you leave?!?" To be honest he's had a worrisome appetite. He's hungry, but sick to his stomach. He's up for anything, but really only concentrating on the ETD just ahead.
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To mark the end of March Madness and the winter Wednesday night hockey season last week, I made California Style BLTs. You can never go wrong with bacon after all!
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I started with a find VT beverage to get warmed up...

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You gotta love that the name of this blend is the lone area code of the state!
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With no Hubs around, I've been trying to use up what we have in the fridge...
and bought a ton of bacon!
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Piled high, we have California BLTs!
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I gave Hubs extra bacon on his :O)
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We also enjoyed some spicy sweet potato fries that I baked up in the oven.
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BLTs - Toasted potato bread, mayo, dulce gorgonzola, bacon (lots of it!), iceberg lettuce, vine ripe tomato and avocado.
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Spicy Sweet Potato Fries - Slice sweet potato, canola oil, garlic powder, cayenne, chili powder, cumin, salt and pepper.
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4 comments:

  1. Thanks for a very sweet, very honest post! I'll be thinking about you this week -- sounds like it will be a hard one. I know what it's like to count down the "lasts" -- but they're not really the LAST days, right? Just the last ones for a time.

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  2. Yes, my friend, we're all thinking about you this week. But I'll be thinking about you on June 17th and August 2nd and probably September 30th. I'll be there reminding you that you are incredibly special and not alone and that this empty house and bare cupboards are momentary and only a blimp in your lifetime as a married couple. You'll be looking for his taste-testing opinion in no time, and we'll be looking forward to his speedy feet. I hope the next six weeks fly by. Many hugs...mg

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  3. Thanks for sharing! It will be a learning and growing experience!

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